Of course you care BobbiJo. You loved the guy he was. And then he turns into this. That had to hurt, really badly.
BobbiJo, it's all about him. You are just in the path of his anger. I think it hurts so much because you know you didn't do anything to deserve this treatment. No one deserves to be treated like that. And you know that there is a Dan, or at least was a Dan, that would never have been capable of that.
I can't do anything to help, but I'm not going to be giving you a 2x4.