UPSIDE DOWN and struggling badly.

[Eskimo Nell]

OK - thanks for the reassurance that my backslide wasn't so awful. Infact, last night H did agree that if I had questions, I was able to ask and so I guess that made me feel better and why it was so easy to ring him.

I've just emailed him a bill that's overdue by a week ... I haven't even seen the original (Water Bill) and I have asked that we have a discussion on the financial stuff ... I can't have things overdue, it worries me to death. He's not getting the bills obviously but its likely that the original arrived when I was in the UK - he has just forgotten about it now that he has moved out. He has to take these things seriously but here's the rub:

What happens when he reiterates that I am living here so I have to pay my share of the bills - I know that I am going to want to say "if you can afford a holiday with OW, then you should be more respectful to your PRIMARY woman and take care of your marital responsibilities - i.e. the bills"

I'm trying to figure a good way of saying that but I really do want to get the point across. He's left me in a position where I am rationing everything to my position 3 months ago and yet he feels it OK to go and have holidays, plus flights interstate every few weeks to see the tramp?? It's why I bought the two plants today - all $26 worth!!!!