Teens! What can I say? Three adults and one more teen to go, for me. It hasn't been that bad --- some have made good choices, some bad, some bad that turned out alright. Eh! This is life. We just set boundaries which I now hear they crossed sneakily, but didn't do anything bad while crossing it. The youngest is a very goal oriented child and a lot more open about her life and what she's up to .... I hope.
Hope your friend is going to be alright, although with you as a friend, I am sure he will be eventually.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I am also going through this with a close friend. We went for lunch last week. It brings back a lot for me as well but I must say - it is easier to be where I am now and caution her not to make the same mistakes that I did (MANY). She keeps saying "He left me in a post-it note"> The pain for her is intense. But it is good to be the one who can provide the understanding ear.
Thanks everybody! My friend spent the evening with another friend last night and I hope to see him tonight. Last night it all seemed to come crashing down around me, all the pain etc. I ended up going to my church and the Pastor met with me for two hours listening to me cry and talk about my past pain. He was a great comfort and a wonderful listener. We both missed the bible study. All the pain just seemed to overwhelm me. Today I'm going to my doctor to discuss the anxiety issues I've had lately. Since I've had that virus a few months ago I've become an obsessive worrier and am losing sleep. The funny thing is that no one would know. I'm very social and still attend all my activities but I am exhausted and just can't seem to contain the anxiety like I used to. I'm concerned because my Dad has been treated for depression so it's in my family. I just want to check with the doc. We'll see what happens. Life goes on.
Good Luck with the dr. You are wise to check it out. Depression does tent to run in families but under the circumstances - it is no wonder you are down at times. Let's hope it is just something that will pass soon.
Well, yesterday I went for a chest and sinus Xray. Dr. gave me some medication for allergies and some sleeping pills. He gave me some AD's to try if I wanted to. He said it might be a good way to re-boot the brain. He certainly understood how anxiety could be higher considering I'd been battling for three months now and am still not feeling that well. I also met with my friend last night and it's the typical WAW syndrome. I told him not to take as Gospel truth anything she throws at him about the marriage and his defecits. At this stage she will re-write history and neglect her responsibility in the marrige by laying all on you. It's a tough rollercoaster ride so I told him to put on his seatbelt. It will get better though. We are meeting again tonight.
My friend phoned me today and said he'd rather go to the gym tonight. He said he wanted to give me a break. We talked for a bit and I asked him to make sure he calls me tonight just to chat. I told him I'd be watching the Toronto Argonaut football game tonight and that his pain would probably come as a welcome relief from mine as an Argo fan. He also said "I'm so confused, when will this end?" I said "Uh, it's only been two days...I know it feels like two months but it's only two days. But that time will come!" Ah, newbies and their pain. So innocent, so...well, you know He's OK, his wife is moving out next week which was a concern and an anxiety. She told him she was leaving him yet didn't have a place to move to..."I'm leaving you, now move over so I can lie down" now that's a case of planning at its finest and just one more example of a really messed up head!
You have learned a lot from your experience and your friend is lucky to have you. I am going through the same with my friend and hope she'll come to the cottage for some peace soon. I have returned here to finish out the summer - if that's what you call this weather. It is CHILLY!
Watch for the baton twirler - I believe she is at the beginning of the Argos game tonight, perhaps halftime. I know her very well - used to twirl on the Canadian team with my daughter. Like me, her mom is a baton coach. Her name is Kyla.
Glad your dr gave you something to help. I am not a personal fan of ADs although they have worked well for some. I also don't like taking sleeping pills but to each his own. Sometimes a diagnosis of allergies hits the nail on the head. But only you can decide these things. See how it goes. Wishing you peace.
Sorry Barb, I missed your friend...I wish I'd missed the rest of the game too but...Anyway, today I went out for my first run in three months and did it feel good! I'm taking it slowly,half an hour or so to begin and I'm combining walking with running and I'll increase the running component as I get back into shape. I just got back from the bookstore and bought a book "Battlefield of the Mind" by Joyce Meyer... anybody read her stuff before? It seemed like something that would be appropriate for my state of mind these days. Well, gotta go, it's football night...again. Now being a single man I can watch as much football as I want, my live-in turtle doesn't give a sh!t! Luv ya turtle.
Now being a single man I can watch as much football as I want, my live-in turtle doesn't give a sh!t!
Muwhahahahahaha!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Well, Whatis has been blindsided by another virus! Tests, xrays etc all show nothing unusual. Doctor says it's the damn mild weather. I'll just have to go through it...again. Now, at the same time I'm trying to help my friend as he goes through separation. I'm hanging in there!
