So for 2 years of friendship and 3 years of dating it was good? Sorry to get all analyst on you but what do you think changed that for 5 years things were good enough that you married him but then you got married and things went south.
I've engaged in some amateur analysis about that myself. I have learned that it is quite common for men who are abusive to change into that mode at the point in the relationship where they feel very 'safe.' Could be that he doesn't think I would ever leave him so he doesn't have to make an effort. Could be he has to have the element of the perpetual chase to keep tuned in. Could be that living together with it's mundane day to day tasks made me seem mundane to him too. Could be that in his world wife = family = treat each other like crap.
It's hard to say. It is a concern of mine though that even if, he did what he needs to do and I came back, that the pattern could repeat. I do not want to do that.
What would you say led to your neglect of that smokin hot wife of yours?
Originally Posted By: DownNotOut...yet
I do think job stress can screw with you but anyone can find 10 minutes a day to blow in a call...or 10 minutes every other day at least. Guys fighting in Iraq find time to call home.
Right, it's not like he's in combat.
Originally Posted By: DownNotOut...yet
Upon re-reading, Lay the Gucci on him. This guy is 17 years older than you? You are a groovy chick! You could probably trade him and get a guy 17 years YOUNGER than you.
