just checking in. everyone has such truthful heartfelt advice. I agree that you should be drenched in the grief & loss, indulge yourself in that now. At some point when you're ready you may try allowing yourself to be in "that place" for a specific but limited amount of time. and otherwise live the the here and now. I think the kids help because you just have to go on and enjoy life because of them. I remember joking that kids are a great prevention from jumping off the bridge. You just must get on with it, they make you. I liked Mishka's words. Nice imagery in the explanation. Reminds of the nature involved in our relationships and our emotions. Breathe. Calm deep oxygen rich calming breaths. When do the kittles get home? Mine is back tomorrow. I got a lot done without her, but miss my little queen.