Need Advice, WAW wants to give it a month

[aliveandkicking]

my wife knows me as a guy who is a straight shooter and very upfront bottom line guy.
I can tend to be dramatic at times but it usually happens when I'm nervous about something..my wife would tell u in my personal life I'm pretty laid back..not a lot really bothers me.


This is a little all over, hard to picture the dynamic but, you're pretty laid back, say what you think, she reacts and starts to pick it a part, you get nervous and act like a drama queen and then she gets aggravated and withdraws...is that about right?

Now im dizzy what im saying is that people are complex and im no exception.

3 personalities

1. everything is cool life is good
2. a little nervous. there is some turbulance but we should be ok
3.THE PLANE IS GOING DOWN

thank god personality number 3 doesnt come out that often...but these are the times it will rear its ugly head. when im in emotional danger...like now(jeez this is like therapy)

Better?

Ya but did I capture the dynamic between the two of you?

Maybe this is too much analyzing...LOL...I'm probably gonna drive you more crazy than she does.

[aliveandkicking]

this is the month we are supposed to be working and tonight my W has her Betty Davis look on in a room watching a movie. i cant juggle the personalites...i assume i let her come to me?

I'm trying to think of what I wanted when I was like that. I think it was like being in a stupor...a fog as they say.

Can you two get away for a weekend (since this is the last month after all)?

[trrose]

don't think so...we just back from vaca and had time together. she was betty davis the whole time...wanted a divorce..read divorce book on the beach...and then the 180

[trrose]

Getting one of those depression waves. sitting in my office trying to generate activity but failing to do so..

I have to book plans for thanksgiviing in FL with my parents the original plan was that i was going to go with the kids sans wife.
Christmas she was going to take the kids and i was going to go away skiing.

its bumming me out..this blows

[aliveandkicking]

Did you look up Retrovaille? Just curious.

Still thinking about your sitch...

[trrose]

you are sweet thx. I actually got on the sight right after I posted but didn't have time to really explore.was planning on doing it a little later

[aliveandkicking]

Well, I keep trying to remember what it felt like to be where she is (though I never read divorce books but I thought about leaving a lot)...

Anyway, I don't want to give advice that isn't really well thought out so I'm hanging back until something really feels compelling...

[trrose]

Hi everyone, at the request of alive and kicking i am looking into this program. i gave a cursory look at the website but thought i would ask the group if there is anyone out there who took advantage of this program and what the pros and cons were.
was it helpful?

[Looking_For_Help]

Deep and Sara are the ones to contact regarding Retrouvaille.

Thanks...LFH

[trrose]

Anyway, I don't want to give advice that isn't really well thought out so I'm hanging back until something really feels compelling

I really appreciate it AAk, you are a good friend.

Well, I keep trying to remember what it felt like to be where she is (though I never read divorce books but I thought about leaving a lot)...

your sitch seems to be unique in that you were thinking about becoming a WAW but your H became the WAH first and now you are the LBS?