Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[BigJohn]

I don't know what to advise, but she should not get away with talking to little D about OM and telling her that Mommy likes OM, etc. That is so unacceptable! Then....so is an A.

Well it gets better. After I stopped my post last night, my D3 announced loudly "Mommy LOVES (OM name)!" in front of my two sons and my W. It may not have been the most responsible thing to do, but I challenged my W to explain to the family what D3 meant by that. Naturally, my W declined. Later, I confronted my W alone and told her that this was the SECOND time that D3 had made comments using OM's name and that it was COMPLETELY UNACCEPTABLE. Unbelievably, my W started telling me that she did not tell D3 anything- D3 must have overheard my W talking to her friends about OM. Later, my W provided an alternate explanation, stating that D3 likely meant to say the name of one of her classmates and NOT OM's name. Does that excuse sound familiar? It was the same excuse she used before a couple months ago when D3 said "Daddy (OM's name)!", only D3's "confusion" was related to another classmate's name! Incredible!

This woman will only continue to get worse, IMHO, and until "she" began to suffer from the from her own bad choices, then she is not going to slow down. I don't know of anything she has had to suffer personally! It has been her family that has been put through the ordeal of her unfaithfulness to the M.....not her! And now for a "mother" to be teaching her little girl the crap she is telling her.....and there's no telling what else she has been saying trying to get the D's approval about OM. If you can think of something to hold her feet to the fire where the child is concerned, I sure thinks she needs to be accountable for that terrible behavior of bad parenting.

That she may continue to get worse is my concern as well. My W still has not accepted ANY accountability for ANYTHING. The closest thing she has come to an apology is when I was telling my MIL that she (my MIL) did not know what my W had done to me and my W stating "I just want to be happy". I told my W afterwards that I was not aware of any "plan for happiness" that called for a W to eviscerate her H emotionally/psychologically, hurt her kids and break up her family. No response from W of course.

My W can't continue doing what she is doing indefinitely and not suffer some consequences. Who knows when that will be, but at the rate she is going, she may have to suffer the consequences alone. But that is her problem. I just have to take care of my kids and myself for now.

Thanks for your continued support and interest in my sitch Sandi. I do believe in miracles- not sure if there will be one in my sitch- but one can always hope.