Need Advice, WAW wants to give it a month

[aliveandkicking]

all due respect. while there may be shades of truth in what u r saying you r mostly off the mark.
not entirely your fault since I did refer to myself as a drama queen

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ok.

my wife knows me as a guy who is a straight shooter and very upfront bottom line guy.
I can tend to be dramatic at times but it usually happens when I'm nervous about something..my wife would tell u in my personal life I'm pretty laid back..not a lot really bothers me.

This is a little all over, hard to picture the dynamic but, you're pretty laid back, say what you think, she reacts and starts to pick it a part, you get nervous and act like a drama queen and then she gets aggravated and withdraws...is that about right?

also do need and don't like to be the center of attention. I checked out your sitch and I think your H was higher on the drama scale. doesn't mean there isn't some truth there..

Yes. My H wins the prize and is just like most guys but on steroids (not literally)...and truth be told, I probably win the prize in the analytical nag category...thus, I know of which I speak.

I think my wife doesn't feel comfotable talking to me when I'm like that because she thinks I'm not being rational and calm...

Yes, she wants you to back your sh*t up with some logic. Sometimes she's right to expect that and sometimes she's being a pain in your a**. Cause for divorce? No. Typical? Yes.

one issue that we have is that I'm a bottom line solution oriented cut to the chase guy...she is more of an analyzer so we both get frustrated w one another...if we r both on A I'm at Z while she is at C..and I have to wait while she analyzes why C comes after B and why D next...its a really big problem for me and it causes me a lot of frustration and anger

do you see her side of this? Seeing as she wants your decisions to make sense? That's how her brain works, she wants to understand...we do speak different languages you know, or come from different planets or something to that effect.

What to do...what to do...I think Retrovaille would be great. You guys need tools. You need better communication (duh!) and you need a some time away to reconnect...IMO.