Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[BigJohn]

Hey BJ,
Wow. That is unbelievable. U did what u had to do and only u knew when u could not put up with it anymore. So Is she allowed to be at the house now? Also do u know what the reaponse was from her going down to the courthouse?

Man u r brave and the fact too that your youngest is mentioning the OM name is bull ----. It really does suck that it had come down to this but you are doing what's best for u and ur children. Kudos Bro. U got more guts than me.

Try to chill out if poss so you can think clearly for your next moves.

Take care

Thanks Jman. Please don't let what I had to do get you discouraged with your sitch. I was forced to take a defensive posture with my W (file first for D) and only did so after discussion with members of my family and a reputable attorney.

Right now we have some preliminary hearings and other mandatory meetings set for next month at the courthouse.
I'll keep you posted as things develop.

Looking back right now, I don't know what else I could have done up to this point. It took the majority of my time and strength to get a handle on my emotions, let go of the (majority) of the anger/resentment/judgmentalism while carrying 95% of the household burdens and keeping my head above water at work. Perhaps I could have developed and implemented firm boundaries with my W sooner rather than wait until recently.

I will be OK. Unlike my W, I've had to deal with some bad things in my life before, so I'm familiar with the path to survival. Like my past life experiences, this sitch will forge me into a much better and stronger man than ever before. It does suck, but I'll take my pain upfront any day over having to pay the piper later, like my W.

Thanks again and I'll check in on your sitch soon.