Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[MrBond]

That, my dear, is an excellent question.

She has her ups and downs and I've been getting into the grooves of when those happen. Right now she's slowly feeling up again. She seems receptive to do pretty much anything that has to do with the kids. So I've been planning some really fun "active" activities that she can participate in. If she doesn't want to, no problem.

For the most part, I've been staying upbeat and keeping things under control in the home. Keeping the kids happy and such. It's when I noticed that she didn't seem happy even with the kids, that I figured there was something wrong.

You hit the nail on the head when you mentioned before that when I wanted my needs fulfilled that it was too much for her. Since we first started going out, she's always been a "whatever you want to do" type of person. Now with the kids, she'll say "whatever the kids want to do". If I ask her for her opinion about things to do, she'll shrug and just say "whatever". Even when we go out to eat, she'll order something for the kids and just eat what they're having. I brought that to her attention last night that she's always done that. Which made her a prime victim for her boss to take advantage.

Don't get me wrong, I know she did real bad with that and will hold her seriously accountable for it. I just don't think she has the emotional capacity to do it right now.

So I've been giving her space and letting things be her choice on whether or not to participate in things. Now, I make sure she realizes that it's HER decision to participate and not me telling her she has to do it. That's why it surprised me when she called me "controlling". Oh please.

Any suggestions from the gallery?