Has there been EA/PA's in the past on either of your parts?
Besides him sitting in the van with her, what else is there that truely makes you think that he is having an affair with her?
Is there any other things that you have CONCRETE evidence about that would suggest he has been unfaithful to you?
The taking off of the wedding band thing...that is a way of being spiteful and hurtful. How do I know this?? Cuz I do that to my H when he has me comepletely angry enough during a fight to want to leave. It hurts him that I take it off.
My main advice to you right now....YOU have to stop obessessing about this every minute. This is not healthy for you or for your M or for your young kids.
If you want to save this M, the start taking some of the advice on here about GAL, and doing the 180's. Start reading M saving books, get an appointment with an IC and/or an MC. If you want to fight then start doing it instead of obessessing about what might be happening.
I am not trying to be hurtful here just brutally honest with you.
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
