To see them come to a conclusion ("ILYBINILWYA"), and then take the past and reverse engineer it until it fits that conclusion is alarming, disconcerting, and disturbing....especially if you have no idea why they're doing it, or worse, buy into their rewrite.
You're not really buying into her rewrite, are you?
Oh, boy. This may be one of the few things I did right as my situation was developing before the bomb. During one particular verbal rant, H declared that I had said something very critical about his younger, single friends a year before. "I decided then that I was done with you." I stayed calm and simply said that I didn't remember saying any such thing, and I didn't feel that way about them. Of course he thought that MY memory was gone, but I knew better. Now I know exactly what that was.
When I was doing all the wrong things after our S and before I came here, I actually said "We've had a lot a good times together." H's blank look told it all. They certainly do change the past, but we know the truth.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
