So now what?

[peacetoday]

Mountain
it doesnt makes sense and I think I went threu a similar stage of grief
like
Why couldnt xh just leave..think things thru...be alone for a while..grieve like the way I choise to deal with it
I believe part of it is really the crises
they were gone long before the bomb
they were defying life and laws of nature way before
I see it as total rebellion
now it is clear 2.5 years later b/c my xh is at rock bottom
he is stuck
he is remarried
in debt
on prescription drugs
unavailable to his kids, himself or anyone else
they defy nature for a time and GET away with it
the secrets, the lies, the affair, the hurt, the walking away with no conversations...
but it catches up
for the few fortunate MLCers, will find help and find their way back to themselves
the one they wanted to becomne before crises
for the others...I dont know
time will onlky tell with each situation
continue your grieving
your searching seeking praying believing
continue moving forward whatever that means to you for today
hold on to hope
believe for the best,be your best
write the letter
send it or not
chances are it will NOT matter anyway
maybe the dbc- just wanted you to take responsibility for the failure (your part) of the M
and let W know you understand now what you did wrong
I did that at one point
It did catch my xh ear when I said it
but unfortunately in my situation, it didnt make a difference anyway
peace
time --the crises will take time and you will see more later
peace