I am all about the kids' well being but she MUST figure this one out. No, you can't take the kids so she can go with OM. If she asks specifically, well, you'll have to decide...
But, you keeping her from making one stupid choice with the kids will not help in the long run. If she doesn't have the presence of mind to keep them away from him right now, she will do it again in the future.
This is my opinion obviously. H and I have discussed him not having kids around any other women unless it is really serious (as in together a year+)...but, I can't be his babysitter while he runs off with OW. Not while we are still married and there is so much yet to be processed and dealt with.
What do you think?
Gotcha. This would be more like me being proactive and trying to show her that I care. She won't take the kids with her. She's not that kind of person. She made a mistake earlier and agreed not to do it. She loves our children very very much.
I know she's in a bind as she tries to find her way through everything. I love her dearly and want her back but remember, I left her 10 months ago, not the other way around. I want to save our marriage and keep our family together, but I also realize my role in all of this and I know how hard all of this is for her.
I'm just struggling to find balance between being her friend and saving our marriage. Does that make sense?
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
