Originally Posted By: trrose
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Do you exaggerate with other people too? Do you act dramatic with other people too? Or just her?

Can you be specific about what her reaction is? Seriously, what does she do/say?

I am getting somewhere with this...my H behaved the same way and I can tell you, at least for me why it is a huge issue.

But first...answer, pleeeaaase.



Gee now the pressure is on me and i dont know cry..i just polled my assistant and a friend of mine at the office...they dont think i exaggerate but i am a drama queen...which is better? grin

I asked my wife and she said that i am both...she said her reaction is that she cant have a conversation with me because im not being realistic...so lets say she withdraws


Ok. My opinion and experience here, obviously. Exaggerating and being dramatic exhibit dishonesty, insecurity and insincerity. Three things we women tend to be not just un-attracted to but threatened and frightened by.

The "not being realistic" means she's on her own. You are useless and busy spinning around while she has to TCB...

The exaggerating and drama come from insecurity and not being ok in your own skin and with "reality"...W makes you uncomfortable by withdrawing and chastising you and the dynamic just feeds itself. Make sense?

My H's exaggerating and drama (he's always the center of attention) was endearing and attractive when we were dating. I wasn't so dependent on him so it didn't hit me as a real sign of insecurity (well it sort of did but I looked past it cuz he was cute and I loved him)...it is all fine and good for a youngster but this is your time to grow up, man up, face your demons and either foray into the big league of manliness or d*ck around. You can do this with or without your W. Or, not at all...which will suck for your kids cuz you'll be fun but un-predictable and they'll feel as insecure as she does with you...

You can be fun and playful and still be present, confident and in reality...

I think Coach could cover some of this ground better than I since I am on the female side of this.

Resonate? Mean anything to you?