I need some help on next steps. There is one thing that seems important near-term. She has the kids this upcoming weekend. There is a big memorial camping trip that he is expecting her to go on. I know she's worried about how to handle it. She feels like her options are lose-lose. Make up an excuse and lie. Go and hurt me. Tell him she can't go because it will hurt me and consequently hurt him.
Should I volunteer to take the kids so she can go or leave it to her to figure out what she wants to do?
I am all about the kids' well being but she MUST figure this one out. No, you can't take the kids so she can go with OM. If she asks specifically, well, you'll have to decide...
But, you keeping her from making one stupid choice with the kids will not help in the long run. If she doesn't have the presence of mind to keep them away from him right now, she will do it again in the future.
This is my opinion obviously. H and I have discussed him not having kids around any other women unless it is really serious (as in together a year+)...but, I can't be his babysitter while he runs off with OW. Not while we are still married and there is so much yet to be processed and dealt with.
