Jeese, guy... I don't even know how to express to you the emmense amount of empathy I'm feeling for you right now. I know that doesn't do crap for you in real life, but given the limits of this BBS, it's all I CAN do.
The other ladies may disagree with me, but I personally think you should come right out and ask your wife about the firefighter and what's the deal. Tell her you'd just like to know so you don't go misinterpreting anything. And then you'll know.
As for the job. Wow. How are you feeling? Do you still believe what you have done was the right thing, or are you regretting the resignation?
My best advice to you is to break down all that has been thrown at you in the last week. Talk with your wife first and see what's doing. Deal with that first.
Second, can you get away on your bike anywhere this weekend to clear your head? Think about what it is you want for your life, and if staying in your current job would be better for you, at least in the short term, swallow your pride and rescind the resignation. I'm SURE he'll understand, given your present circumstances.
Can you go back to your counselor at least for a short time, if for nothing else than to vent and to try and keep your thinking as clear as you can?
Your life has been flipped end over end. Try to slow down and calm yourself. DO NOT look at the big picture or you'll start spiraling. It is critical that you remain calm so you don't start acting in a knee-jerk manner.
Do you instant message? I'm on, my nickname is tctussin... if you want to chat.
