New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Journaling.

I'm sitting here at work. Lunch time.I've been thinking about the phone conversation with my W. I'm trying to process everything that was said and figure out if I did well at paying attention and truly listen to what my W was saying. I did a lot of affirmation. I also aknowledged a few instances when I could have done a better parenting when I was with the boys in JUL.

My W didn't like it that I bought the boys a lot of toys because she was stricter when they returned back with her. She didn't want to look like the bad parent because she didn't buy the boys everything they wanted. She has a point there. I took the criticism and acknowledged this "needs improvement".

Anyway, I think I did well overall. The main goal was to not get sucked into a fight and answer fire with fire. I never lost my composure and kept it even keel even when my wife came out with a few (valid) criticisms. That's when I can truly say I DID change because I am actually very calm about everything. I don't want to go back to what I used to be.

Well, it's been 14 months since this whole thing erupted. But it seems as if time stopped for me. I believe time will resume once I can finally move on with or without my W. I'd rather to be WITH my W.

JR