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Quote: It looks like my wife is falling for another man.
WHAT!!?!! Are you sure it isn't a ploy to make you jealous? Jesus Christ, for once in my life I am utterly speechless and have absolutely no clue what to say -- except that we're all here when you are ready to talk.
Speechless here also. Just be sure you aren't telling yourself another one of those stories. Looks can be deceiving and actions are not always an indication of what is actually going on. Don't react until you know exactly what is going on. Cathy~
I'm here, but have been a wreck for the past couple days. Yesterday, in a fit of pique at my boss's inane request about something, I submitted my resignation. I am just swimming in insanity.
I'm at the office today, going about my job. My wife, who you'll recall works with me, had a nice talk thins morning. She was fuming yesterday because I submitted the resignation without even talking to her about it first. I felt so paralyzed this morning, that I called her from my office and we talked about what happened between me and my boss (who happens to be her boss too), and she is totally backing me up in my decision now. She is actually supporting me! I told her how appreciative I am of that, and I am feeling better now in general.
I still believe she's falling for someone else, but it also might be a fantasy thing, or just her way of gauging her feelings toward me. It also might just be fate for her to be with the guy. He's a firefighter, apparently, which does wonders for my ego at the moment, which means I feel like s**t.
Whew, glad to see you on the boards. I understand the turmoil that you are going through. Was out here wondering how you are doing, though.
Working with your W has been a continutal source of frustration for you so might be a good thing to find employment elsewhere. I hope that you will be able to find a position that will allow you to use your talents and skills.
I know how hard it is when your emotions are running high but try not to make decisions in haste. Walk around the block, go have a smoke,(if you do) but take some time to think before you make any other decisions. Sometimes time will lead us to wiser choices.
Why are you thinking that she is falling for someone else? Is this just one of her tests of you? Is she playing games again? Remember that a firefighter is not every woman's fantasy, so don't fall for that trap to burst your ego. Fantasies are just that, fantasies. Most of us would rather have a real live honest guy instead of a fantasy to relate to so try to stop putting yourself down.
Jeese, guy... I don't even know how to express to you the emmense amount of empathy I'm feeling for you right now. I know that doesn't do crap for you in real life, but given the limits of this BBS, it's all I CAN do.
The other ladies may disagree with me, but I personally think you should come right out and ask your wife about the firefighter and what's the deal. Tell her you'd just like to know so you don't go misinterpreting anything. And then you'll know.
As for the job. Wow. How are you feeling? Do you still believe what you have done was the right thing, or are you regretting the resignation?
My best advice to you is to break down all that has been thrown at you in the last week. Talk with your wife first and see what's doing. Deal with that first.
Second, can you get away on your bike anywhere this weekend to clear your head? Think about what it is you want for your life, and if staying in your current job would be better for you, at least in the short term, swallow your pride and rescind the resignation. I'm SURE he'll understand, given your present circumstances.
Can you go back to your counselor at least for a short time, if for nothing else than to vent and to try and keep your thinking as clear as you can?
Your life has been flipped end over end. Try to slow down and calm yourself. DO NOT look at the big picture or you'll start spiraling. It is critical that you remain calm so you don't start acting in a knee-jerk manner.
Do you instant message? I'm on, my nickname is tctussin... if you want to chat.
