Maybe those thoughts have reversed a tad, though I doubt ex's would ever admit them changing. I am happier now partly because I don't have someone constantly saying "It sounds like you really hate your job" or something else along those lines.
I certainly don't want to share holidays with ex in my company so perhaps this is the difference caused by the reasons behind the divorce in the first place. Everyone is unique and I am sure the methods of balancing out your life with someone new will be unique too. I say let everyone come to our house on this day and go to the other parents on this!
Maybe I am babbling, but hopefully you get the idea.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory