Just want my H back

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Hi LFH, I'm new to this forum too, and I've shared my retro exeprience in my thread and quite a few others, including this one and Serenity's. Sorry if I'm repeating / missing out some things.

It definitely gave my M a chance. Don't go in with inflated expectations, just treat it as a possible chance to improve communications with your W, which could bring about healing, and from there improve your odds of making your M work. It's not a magic bullet against D, but you should go in with trust and hope.

My W was so wrapped up in OM and how we had lost "us", I can't describe my despair then. A variation of the WAS script was often mentioned, how Ms turn out to be this stale situation and how she wanted more, and found it (without looking mind you) in OM. On hindsight, she attended for probably not the best reasons. Sure, she said she wanted the M to be better. But the constant fights were killing us, and she wanted us to be at least able to be somewhat "normal" even if we stayed together for the kids. She insisted I gave her the option of leaving any time she wanted, and she wanted out all through the drive there, through registration, through the kick-off.

Highlights for us were 1) She "felt" me again in our kiss 2nd night, 2) she felt closer and more connected than the last few years (could be WAS script), 3) she thanked me for forcing her to go from the 3rd day all the way home. She broke down and said "I'm so sorry" to me while unpacking that I could even halfway believe was sincere for the first time since I busted her.

It was STILL very much a hellish roller coaster after that for a long time, but it gave us a start down the path of healing I'm not sure we'd otherwise would have. C did not work for us prior to that. Success rate? I'm not sure - I'm told my area had an 80% rate and over 40 babies born to reconciled couples.

I guess I'll be adding 1 more to that number by Jan 2010.

we're still working on things but I'm in a place I gave almost no hope for. My W's rejection of me was almost total. Hope, pray, and go in BELIEVING. Best of luck!

(sorry for the hijack hhh)