robx, I get the science but I think you underestimate a) a horny man's susceptibility to extra-marital sex when "dating" b) the devastating effects that a husband dating can have on a woman's self esteem (you all often assume OM, but what if there isn't as in my case?) c) the way the proposed dater's possibly juvenile behavior played into the dynamic and how that might be addressed prior to throwing in dating (which can be a bit juvenile when one is married)...
And I agree with the dating part in SOME sitches. I am dating now. I have an infantile husband so it fits. Plus he's been gone for 9 months.
I was that "horny man" and I exercised an EXTRAORDINARY amount of self-control and I can't believe I'm unique in this ability plus in this situation we're not assuming there is an OM, we know it for a fact. But yes I agree sometimes we assume there is an OM in every situation and that just isn't the case.
