Holy cr*p robx, there was no OM in my sitch but I don't think I have ever seen it so well articulated how destabilizing it is for a woman to lose that sense of security with her H.
I have been trying to find the words and articulate it and just couldn't beyond recognizing the "dynamic"...
And you thought all I had going for me was good looks and a great attitude ;-)
WOW! - this guy has smarts too! LOL!
Well I'm glad you can see that my education in this area isn't just stuff that I've read on the cover of a matchbook.
When it comes down to it, there is a science behind all of this, security is crucial for women, when a man shows jealousy, envy, clingy-ness (not a word but you know what I mean), anger at his wife's actions, inability to handle things without his wife having to be there, not letting his wife go out with her friends every now & then to have some individual time (not to be mistaken with wife going with OM to have individual time), this all shows insecurity and women want to feel secure with the men they're with. Without security it all goes downhill after that.
You may not agree on the dating part of my advice either but there is a science behind that as well. When I get some time I'll post the ideas behind the "dating", not to be confused with user TRROSE on another thread who is asking if she should sleep with another woman while him & his wife are apart (and I offered my 2 cents on his thread... "NO!"). No sex, dating yes, but definitely no sex, kissing, touchy feeling, sexy time explosions, no sex!!!
