I think a lot of what you are experiencing is called life. If you want sparks and sizzle you will have to toss those in on occasion to keep things hopping.
Why don't you invite your friends over or go out with them? Maybe they are thinking you just want time alone. And as for the job front, going from no job to a couple??Wow. when it rains it pours. I am happy for you.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory