So need some advice here... I'm questioning if I made a mistake. So H&I went out Saturday night, and on Sunday I needed to leave to travel for work. H&I took care of the car for oil change then he cooked dinner for me to carry with me. When I was leaving Sun afternoon, I just couldn't ask him to leave the home. So I gave him back him his key to properly lock up after I leave and he said he would check on the mails, my garden, etc. Now I don't know if giving him the key was a mistake. I mean he still hasn't moved back since we have things to resolve, but can I really ask him for his key back can I? Don't really know how to proceed with that. I don't want him to think that he can easily come back home - I know the things I want to be cleared up first. But then some things will take time I know too. I've been reading up and working on setting boundaries adn consequences so I wanna do that for a while longer.
So today, in working on boundaries, I sent H a text saying: Dear H been thinking about bills and our hard work all these yrs & realized that if we are not a team financially & I;m not getting ur financial support then I cannot work to save the bldg from foreclose or with the violations. You have left me with no choice given that our success is being sacrificed.
I didn't get a response but that's good I want it to sink in. We are suppose to try for a modification for our bldg but in thinking about consequences I realized that no way I don't have to do this if H and I are not a team and he is supporting ow. So will see how that goes.
So anyone, please let me know how you think I should handle the key thing. Thanks and wishing everyone happiness.
P.s. Ahh, Karen, yes, my H is a big old rebellious teenage 35 year old boy. H looks much younger than his age so I think he may be all confused at times. And I at 4 years younger seem to play the role of the responsible mommy. What fun.
