well, I found out why last night fell so flat. I was using the wrong tool for the job.

I didn't need a warning shot across the bow.

I didn't need Heavy Artillery.

I needed a sniper rifle.

More later.

The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.

My sitch - Divorce Busted!
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