Getting your hair done will make you feel good, regardless of the outcome. You will have worked hard all week and you deserve a treat. People at the party will also appreciate how good you look and doubt your H's actions! You can't go wrong on that score!
Fingers crossed for you that he does come along ... I know that it is what you would like.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
H just rang (unusual) to say he forgot to tell me he was going rock climbing tonight:
Me: "Great, have fun, will you eat dinner out or do you want me to keep your dinner" H: "dinner would be great if you could keep it" Me: No worries, will do" H: So I will be later home Me: Yeah, that's fine, I'll see you whenever you get here, have fun" H: "Oh, okay, see you then"
The confused tone in his voice made me smile even more which came across loud and clear in my voice. I got off the phone and had a little chuckle, he was clearly bemused. My normal attitude would have sounded really down and disappointed, conversation would not have been as above. Doing a little dance now, yeah.
Still no answer though on the party Saturday night.
You are doing exceptionally well Oz. I'm sure H is baffled by your new found attitude. I can feel that success is breeding even greater success. It's telling him, nothing will faze me! Yay!
H probably doesn't even know if he's going to the party
Probably he doesn't Cas, but you know what at the moment, I don't really care, if he goes to the party with me, great, if not, his loss. I will still go, because our friends want me to go and I know it will be a great party and I don't want to miss it.
That's the thing they really don't realise all the good stuff they are missing out on by being like they are. Sad for them really.
Way to go girl ... you are on fire! Are you sure that you need the DR book .. ?? You seem to be doing so well of late that you could teach it
So impressed - I am watching you closely - you are getting results and I want to be the protege of that successful behaviour. We are not worthy, oh master!!
Hope that you are making something really great for dinner - you could then tell him it would have tasted even nicer if he had been home to 'have it hot'!!!!!! That will bemuse him even more *snigger*
Keep up the great work and keep posting ... !! (((Oz)))
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
PS - don't worry about the party just yet - it's still a few days away and you know the 'moving target' keeps on doing just that ... whatever H tells you today will be different by tomorrow anyhow so kick back and enjoy your 'acting as if' because you are just so damn good at it ...!!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Hi Nell, What I have learn't has been passed on to me by all the wonderful generous friends I have made here. Valuable first hand advice that money cannot buy.
Once you let go of your fear and grief and decide that this won't beat you, you to will find that you will start to take baby steps. That's what we are all here for, support, advice, hand holding, shoulders to cry on, encouragement and prayers for each and every one of us.
Oh and I am getting better at dodging the bullets that get fired at me and you will too Nell, remember patience. We have to have the patience of saints.
You are so right (((Oz))). I have got more out of coming here in the past few weeks than I have had from my 'friends' back home in 3 months. I guess it's because we understand - we know what to say and what not, when to be upbeat and when to draw back a bit - when to encourage & support and when to tell each other YOU PLAIN DID THAT WRONG!! All of this is readily accepted by others as we know it is a safe environment and all advice is given with the best possible intent .... and that should draw you over to my post for the very latest on my sitch .... !!!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
