Monday: W became extremely upset with me yesterday when she found out that our savings account was in only my name and not both of ours. She called me on the phone insinuated that I was trying to cheat her. I tried to explain that the account was set up several years ago before I ever had any notion that we could end up like this.
Went home and asked her to go for a walk so we could calm down. This seemed to work. By the end we were rather friendly. I showed her all the accounts last night. She gave a check (from her new checking account) to a landlord for a security deposit to hold an apartment.
Last night after the conversation we ended up ML. I am not sure how it happened, but I am a guy that has needs. Afterward, she left the bed to go sleep with MIL. She said she didn't need to be any more confused than she already was.
I talked to a lawyer this morning. She told me to let the money go. She said that it would be counted against her assets in the end anyway.
So would binviting single moms over for playdates (for the children I mean) be considered dating? I on't think so.
Your error in this situation was trying to explain anything. She accused you of trying to cheat her? Are you serious? And then on top of that you tried to defend yourself for something you didn't have to defend? Do you see the problem here? She insinuated/accused you of cheating and you ended up looking like the bad guy .... isn't your wife cheating on you currently? Do you make her look like the bad guy? What right does she have to talk to you like this?
STOP!
I'll repeat this part again & again if I have to until you burn it into your brain and it becomes part of boot up process in the morning:
Grow a spine and start to stand up for yourself. It’s impossible to truly love yourself & draw self esteem from within if you are letting people walk all over you. Every time you let someone treat you badly your self esteem drops just a little bit.
Learn it, know it, live it - everything else in your life will improve when you believe in these words.
