OK - I'm ready. Make up - au natrelle and blemishes covered, courtesy of Clinique, may God Bless 'em; Hair - clean, dyed and no grey showing - straightened perfectly; Clothes - new jeans and a shirt neither of us have seen in ages ... maybe heeled boots just before he arrives??
Thinking that a cup of tea in the sunshine now, with DR in hand, will be good preparation before he arrives. May get some firming up on techniques and will relax and calm me ... 3 hrs 10 mins and counting ... though I shouldn't.
Breath ... breath... don't react. OK - got it. Don't let him feed off my anxiety ... be business like but polite and friendly ... smile - am I ready???
Can't help thinking, looking in the mirror, that I still look 10 years older than when he left 2 months ago ... will have to use personality to make up for that and surely he will realise what a toll this has all taken on me, despite that I am supposed to be GAL'ing!
Any last minute pearls of wisdom or advice on script ... how the evening should go? Should I compliment him on his appearance (last time I saw him I told him he looked bl**dy awful!) or just take things very low key ...? Yes, guessing that's the best.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Glad you are ready to roll Nell, just make sure you hide the DR book (I am still waiting on my copy to arrive). High heels for sure, gives that sexy lean look.
Definitely relax. I wouldn't compliment him (just my take on the matter), keep things low key, DON'T MENTION your R or anything to do with it.
Will do Oz - thanks for advice re heels! May shock him a bit as its literally years since I have worn them! As you know, these are my treat to myself from last week
A treat for next week may be DB - I only have DR and it's a library copy but they don't have DB - is it worth getting after all the advice that is so freely available here??
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
I couldn't get either in the library. Found one copy of DB at Borders bookstore. Had to order DR through here. I am hoping it arrives before the weekend.
Most people have told me that DR is the better one particularly when dealing with an MLCer because I believe it has a section on it in there but I got the DB one because I just wanted to be armed with every bit of advice and tool that I could get my hands on. Like every book there is stuff in it that you will use and stuff you won't. I was at the beginning when I bought DB and was desperate for anything that gave me hope.
I read both and as Oz said DR is the preferred. I got DB at the library and then got my own copy of DR. read 5 LL as well, you could probably get that at the library.
Sending you all the best for this evening; may you smile plenty, be calm, not pursue and be gracious (eventhough we now your heart will be racing!)
Thanks both. Gloves are off ... well no, boots are on and looking good, if I may say so myself - just got to practise walking in them now - and quickly - just two hours to go (if he's not late)!!!!
I flicked him a quick email in response to one of his earlier and just said that our puss was missing - I couldn't find her and was frantic - she had been gone for 4 hours. It took him a while to respond (this was actually quite reassuring that he IS WORKING as he would have replied immediately for anything to do with the little people) and he said "she'll be back - tomming time again, I expect" - to which I had to find all my strength to say "yes, there's a lot of it about" - Gee, I should have majored in sarcasm as it comes to me so much easier than DB'ing!!
OK - so I hear that DR is the best - perhaps I shall stick with that then and not waste money that's too precious a resource right now (sorry to keep on about that but it is one of my prime focus spots - especially when previously $ has flowed generously in this home)!
So, I've just read the MLC section again and I feel better - wish that I had read it again yesterday when I was feeling so shaky. It's all true. As Michelle points out:
Every time you fix something, they find something else to moan about - you are a moving target for them; they say that they have never loved you; they re-write all of your history so that it's a bad story; they try to re-invent themselves by dying their hair, going to the gym, taking an OW - if only they put as much effort into making the changes INSIDE themselves. True - so damned true!!
They become scared of getting old, seeing the man in the mirror who is not recognisable, he feels resentful of putting the food on the table, buying brand named clothes for kids, he becomes depressed - and its all YOUR fault. Detaching, for us ladies, is the only way to go. He has to struggle through it until he sees the fog clearing. Meanwhile, we have to sit and love our H's from a distance. That's the message ladeez. Love them - from a distance.
Thanks for your support tonight - I will be feeling you with me all the time that H is here. Please continue to send positive vibes and I will post, when he's gone!! Oh, by the way, puss was here in her little Princess Palace all the while - she hadn't even moved but I just couldn't find her, despite all my calling! Cats - so determined - they would be exceptional DB'ers!.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Nell, I remember now that you struggled with 5 LL. i loved it and it made so much sense to me. Nevermind, put it away and maybe try it a couple of months down the track
