Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[BigJohn]

Sandi/Stuck,

Thank you for the feedback. Well, here is what happened since my last post. After speaking to my W again about physically S this past Sunday, her response was to go to the courthouse Monday morning, talk to a paralegal and bring home paperwork to file for a D with the intent of having me booted from our house. After speaking to an attorney I had previously consulted with, he advised that the only chance I would have of challenging my W's attempt to force me out of the house would be if I filed for D first. I was very adverse to doing this, but after speaking with my family and a close friend, I was convinced by all that I needed to make a stand against my W and start defending/protecting myself. So this morning I filed for D from my W and she was served this afternoon.

My W went ballistic, particularly over comments I made in my complaint over her A with OM as well as her lack of effort in seeking employment comparable to what she had prior to her termination and the beginning of her A. After going to the courthouse and filing a response, she came back home and got back into the same routine she has had for the last 6 months. We talked and I explained to her that she had forced my hand- I cannot continue to under perform at work- putting my job at risk- as a result of her being a negative distraction here at the house. I had sought to negotiate a workable solution to physically S from her and she had refused. Of course, my W could not appreciate my point of view nor understand why I couldn't just deal with the fact that she doesn't want a MR with me, she won't forsake her A and I can continue to worry about my job and our financial situation by myself while supporting the family.

Then I got more of the same crap that I always do, about how soooo unhappy she is with me and our MR and how there is NO WAY she will ever give me a chance to reconcile with her. And how she does not believe that relationships in general should take work to maintain. (Amazing how she can say this since a lack of maintenance is what got her and I to where we are now in our MR. Boy is she in for a big surprise in her next R!)

I am very angry at my W for the way she has treated me and everyone else in the family with no respect or caring for anyone's feelings. I am tired of being spat on and treated like less than dirt. I don't know what it is going to take for my W to WAKE UP but I'm done being treated this way by her. I'm done! And here is more icing on the cake: My W just came in with D3 from having ice cream with her friends and the first words out of D3's mouth are "Mommy likes (OM name)!!" Said right in front of both of my sons.

I'm too pissed off right now to continue posting. I'll check in later. Any thoughts and/or feedback is welcome as always.