Thank you for all the great posts to wake up to this morning. I am heading off to the office, but wanted to touch on a couple things:
Honeypot's suggestion has already been followed. When she brought up, I think a couple weeks ago, the trust issue, I told her that I ALSO don't trust HER....to be willing to be intimate with me. Talk is cheap, and I've experienced years of it. I want action, and have seen little of it. There's a saying that some women learn, and some don't: Don't let your man leave the house loaded (meaning "down there"). She's been perfectly willing to let me fend for myself on the sex issue, but then bitches about the results. She knows that I DO NOT trust her to do as she says in this area.
On Corri's point about not letting myself take the bait and pick up the tar baby, I am already acting in this way, as much as I can. Last night, I drove my daughter back to the house and dropped her off with a kind word, and left. She expects me, by our history, to get defensive to her attacks, like the one about the pager. But this separation space is giving me an easier opportunity to not engage in that. When she bitched about the pager, I told her that I understood, adn was sorry. The only thing remotely defensive was asking her why she didn't try my email pager, which she knows I carry all the time? (I think I know the answer, but I won't be presumptuous here.) She didn't have an answer. It's nice, for once, to be able to be kind, not get defensive, and just leave her alone so she's stuck with herself and can't focus on me.
I'll be back later for an update. Gotta head to work, although I could sure use a good cry right now. (just kidding)
