Hi Trying, sorry to read about how things are going, but also happy in a way for you that there are positives too. I think our own personal state of mind as the LBS is the one thing of utmost importance that we keep flailing around helplessly at the most.

People just won't wake up till something forces them to. Even then it may take so much time. Put your foot down firmly on some of the things she has been throwing at you (as you have been doing). And just remember that your WAS probably doesn't even know her own mind even as she keeps changing it.

One thing I have been mulling for some time is the effect of the DB / GAL mode on the LBS long term. I was very tempted to send personal messages to a couple of the more acknowledgable posters here before I found that this action is disabled.

Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.