MB, I think you are doing an amazing job! You're doing the best you can! Don't give yourself a hard time.
At the same time, like pearl told me, don't ignore signs you don't want to see. I was guilty of that and I still don't know anything for sure, but I am not ignoring the signs and have changed my approach a bit. It seems to have gotten some result actually.
If you're thinking a keylogger, I'd recommend e-blaster. Very easy to install, just download from their web site. You can set it up where you get reports however often you'd like, you can also type in keywords, and you'll get a report if those words are typed. It records all keystrokes, e-mails, IM's, shows websites visited, etc. Trust me if I can install it, a monkey can. I bought a more powerful modem for our wi-fi two weeks ago, and it's hopeless - must call the Geek Squad.
Got a Neiman's catalogue today - OMG!! Just when I said that I'll never buy ANOTHER black bag - I turned the page and fell in love. Dolce and Gabana, quilted black patent leather. But then my eyes strayed to the BOOTS!
OMG - Gucci, black shiny leather knee-high, side zip, 3 1/2 " heel. I thought we'd last forever. . .UNTIL!!
The Pedro Garcia d'Orsay pump in cuero brown leopard printed feathers, oh, what was that - yes - FEATHERS, raw edged silk satin w/the most darling grosgrain bow, and pearl hatpin detail - 3.5" heel.
Oh, what to do, what to do??
Seriously, I'm here. Well, not for a little bit, have to take D to a meeting at her high school. But I'll be back.
Hope my retail frenzy made you smile - just a little.
But, crap, you were supposed to come through w/a witty, welcoming approach to this? DONTCHA KNOW THAT WAS YER JOB?
Well I was going to suggest you come out to Coastal City and practice your shower moves with a friendly, non-judgmental, smiley person (you know, as an example -- practice makes perfect), but I didn't want to be too presumptive
I mean, I haven't even given you my class ring or anything...
On e-blaster, there's one key bit they don't really highlight. After installation, you want to run any and all anti-virus and anti-spyware programs. Some of them will find e-blaster out -- some quite handily, not least of which is a piece of freeware that comes highly recommended from cNet -- so you have to let them find it and then tell them to ignore it.
On the hydraulics and affairs -- nah, I'm not buying it. I've known my fair share of cheaters, and they had no problem engaging the lift for the spouses they were cheating on. In some sense it's even easier because of the thrill that's associated with it. So I wouldn't assume that performance is degraded through overuse w/OW.
#1 - How do I change my thread name to take my username out of it? #2 - Also, I'm changing my username. You'll figure it out... #3 - Is there any way to delete threads? #4 - Not sure I'll need e-Blaster, as we are dealing w/someone who very rarely uses a computer, and I have it all set-up for him. Doesn't know a cookie, from a history from a RAM... But, I may be back to that someday. #5 - Considering BlueWare - BlueTooth Spy Software for cellphones... Will ask for input later.
Now... I know Jeff got my tail feathers in an uproar today (no blame, Jeff... nothing I haven't thought on my own), but I need to remember, NOTHING HAS CHANGED. I've done initial surveillance, have another level to go over this evening, but at first glance, nothing jumps out as odd.
My H is thawing out. We are WAY ahead of where we were when I started, and getting closer again (daily), albeit at a snails pace.
HOWEVER, if upon getting rid of this extra weight, and the confidence is built enough to face this dude head (LOL) on (naked), then you can bet your sweet as$es, I'll be all over it.
MB is savvy, smart, resourceful, and won't f'n deal w/this kind of BS much longer.
Amen, brutha's and sistah's!
HOWEVER,
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
