FIB- I know many times you thought of your wife as having a mental illness.....and i just wanted to suggest to you that we all know that at the very least if we have a true MLC there is depression at work.
With that said there may be other disorders of the brain your wife has and you have become the blame the place she can put all that is wrong...now you may ask ok she can act normal around others...thats the part I never bought...and would alwasy have me quesiton...
Well last night i started attending a class sponsered by NAMI - national alliance for the mentally ill -- I do have a mentally ill son, anyway....so many things we covered last night about behaviors and changes I was thinking in my head...wow I cam here for my son...and that was my focus..but as they laid out the behaviors and symptoms of someone with a brain disorder my XH came to mind...then I thought oh no, hes funtioning with others at from what i can tell is bareable, etc...but then others in the class started talking about how their mentally ill child can pull off an act with some others and in front of doctors...etc.
anyway i just wanted to mention the acts of meaness that leave you going who is this women....they are signs and behabors of a person mentally ill...i mean when i think of some of the things my h has done too..i think would i even do that to anyone....NO. NO NO.....
i dont know if getting back to that perspective helps..but after attending that class last night....i am back on board with mlc being a mental illness...we are going to be learning about dual diagnosis too...so anyway....as my C used to tell me ok its MLC what does that change for you...ok the hurt is still there true...but knowing they are sick....and really beliveing it....there is some compassion in that....
