I'm so sorry. I will go back and re-read your posts to find your comment on detachment, and respond. I feel so much better today. I stayed at a friend's house last night, and slept 11 hours. I was so exhausted, I had no idea. At the office now, but will touch base later. But one question first: why do YOU think she loves me? I believe she loves me as a father to her child, but not as a husband. Is it love, or is it co-dependency? I wonder.