You have mentioned repeatedly that your W has trust issues with you. Could you clarify some since I cannot seem to find info re the trust issues in your other posts. I take it that the therapy included these issues, not just the lack of desire and intimacy issues, but I am assuming.
She mentioned that she wants you back home but did she explain why? Need to get that clarified before you even think about it.
I have been very clear with my H that I will not move back until things change drastically on his part. No movement on that issue for us. **Sigh**
Maintain as much contact with the kids as you can, sounds like you try to. They really need to see you try to maintain your relationship with them even if it is hard being around the W from time to time. Don't let what is going on between the two of you mess up the kids. They need you and you need them especially now. Let them know how much you love them.
You sound much more focused last night and that was good to see. Keep your chin up and take care of yourself.