I said I cant forgive him now but since I need to do that to be happy I will do it for myself eventually
Eventually is the key. Don't be hard on yourself if you cannot forgive for some time. I was expecting to have some sort of epiphany where I could just forgive H but it hasn't happened yet. Even if we know it is the best thing for us it doesn't just happen all of a sudden. It is a process.
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