OMG, cire, one of my all time favorite sayings...had to respond to that!
fib, as you well know, there ain't much your STBXW has done over the years that hasn't chapped my ass, but nonetheless, Sugar, my concern is you...
I read an article not too long ago about getting back into the dating scene at middle age (um, yeah, that's what we are) and it said all the usual, ya just gotta do it, just jump right back in, get back on the horse, yada, yada, yada...
But it gave a couple of interesting tips. First, it said, listen to your gut. Never will your gut be more in tune, than during the first couple of dates. Unfortunately, after that, emotion (and some other compelling forces) take over, and you lose perspective. So whatever legitimate flags or buzzers or bells that go off for you initially, do not ignore them.
Conversely, it said, don't measure the other person against your EXPECTATIONS. If you have always told yourself that you have to have certain things, if you measure this new person against those things, you will be disappointed. More importantly, you will likely miss out on the gifts that they bring to the table, things that really might be more important that what you have always considered must-haves.
I thought this was good and interesting advice, but not only for looking forward, but for looking back and going "aha".
So many opportunities to learn, along this path we are on....don't squander it.
But yeah, I agree with cire, garbage dumped on the floor, I'm thinking there needs to be a tit for that tat...
