I know you want to help her so maybe that's what you should do. Help her this time but make it clear with the separate households you both are going to have to really buckle down here. The partying, the socializing....it's expensive as is but now that you have two households, it's something that's going to have cut back.
Gently explain....divorce is one of the single most devastating events financially speaking. We don't even have to go into the emotional toll of it, but taking the emotional side out of it, speaking logistically, it's a very hard hit to the pocket. She's going to have to learn that.
