Just go back and read all of my past posts, there aren't that many. I started here in March in a really bad frame of mind. Ask anything that you want to.
As far as being physically cold, my H does not understand that at all. Denial is powerful. He cannot explain why his lack of intimacy to me. He does not want to find out, scared that the supposedly most important person in his life, me, will think that he is weak. Wish to h*ll that he would have been as supportive and caring as I have been to him. But I have to look forward, not in the past, though it will influence my decision.
His mom is very closed and he never observed a close couple relationship since his dad died when he was 10. His folks were fighting a lot when he was a kid. I think his fear of intimacy is tied to losing his dad at a very young age.
Lots of people in our sit. If we can help with one small thing for each other, that's good.
