Another thing...the more upbeat I am, the more it seems to pi$$ her off.
I want to be upbeat and fun to be around, but I think that she has so much resentment toward me still that she wants me to be "paying for it" not having a good time.
Anyone have any suggestions here?
Okay, I was her in this sitch. It p*ssed me off because we had huge issues that were not being dealt with...major financial issues, our sex life sucked, our M was in jeopardy. His glibness and jovial behavior was offensive to me and exhibited a lack of concern.
Perhaps if I felt that H was leading and handling the major issues, I could have appreciated his humor and playfulness.
So, are there areas where you are NOT taking care of business?
I don't know if this is DB or not but I would have just about dropped dead (or dropped my drawers) if H had presented a solution...for example, "This is Retrovaille, it is happening the weekend of X, I got the kids covered and I want you to come with me. Living like this is unacceptable to me and I see how unhappy it makes you and we need to do something about it now."
Wow, would I have dug that...
As it was, H would complain and drop little bombs about being miserable and he would try to get me to come out with him and he brought up seeing an old marriage counselor (one who I knew if we saw we would separate)...but he was always complaining or threatening and never took the lead to exhibit that he was invested in doing something constructive, something specific.
