However, I got a bit angry as well as sad, and I am trying to use the anger to help detach. I love her, but I don't like her right now.
Originally Posted By: K4D
Oddly, I find the only thing that allows me to detach at times is being angry at W....As soon as my anger resides, I am back to wishing things weren't the way they are.
You are still allowing "them" to control and sway your emotions.
side note: anger is not a good way to form detachment. It has a tendency to lead to hatred. Those are the most bitter of divorces.
SMcQ
Yes!!!! And that is why, despite all the pressure I was under to file or do something, I am so glad I didn't. Now, I am ready to deal with it. NOT while I was angry...
I guess detachment is the healthy path for dealing with R or D...it is just essential for mindfulness and sanity.
