keep yourself busy by doing non-db, non-R stuff. Have you talked to your W about her A? Maybe you need to write a letter to her about how you can't believe she blamed you for everything while she was out fooling around.
I think you need to do something to clear the air before you go out with her. If not, I have a feeling that you're going to end up arguing with her in front of the kids and that's the worst thing that can happen.
You can even write it out here and we can offer suggestions.
Forget about the praying for her part. You pray for your own healing. Only at that time can you decide whether to pray for her or not. It's a long and slow process. I still have resentment towards my W for it. It especially hurts when they don't apologize.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
