It just seems to have been the only way for me at times was all I was saying. I wasn't saying it was the best method.
Kevin
Kevin, I have nothing but empathy and affection for everyone here, especially you. However, you are telling me you understand and you don't. You really really don't.
Your anger relieves your pain temporarily. It has nothing to do with detaching. Perhaps anger can proceed detachment but since you are either angry OR overly invested in W, I don't think anger gets you there. Read other threads, read Thinkers thread, read Smileys thread, read my thread. Stop getting hung up on dating or morality or religious differences. NO one is telling you to give up or to date or to violate your religious convictions...just flippin' read about what works and what has led others to a place of peace and self-assuredness. I would bet everything I've got that your W will never truly come back to you unless you man the heck up and get this detachment thing for real. Maybe if she's really desperate and feels sorry for you, she'll come back to you and you can have THAT kind of jacked up relationship but really Kevin, don't you think God has called on you to go through this so you can have better???? Sorry to even throw in God because I am not religious but I get where you come from and if you could get the concepts within the context of your religion, I think there'd be more likelihood of change.
That's all I'm saying about that. I feel like an a** even trying. But I wish you luck.
