I spent hours finding books with similar themes and directions that he would be more prone to read that fit our R better. I read, highlighted, and made comments in the margins. We talked about that I was the one in the R that kept searching and learning things. He thought that reading the books would be doable, but if and when he does, he can tell me. He is a big boy and has to take responsibility and stop the denial that we have serious problems.
I'm not pushing too hard for anything right now since our separation is less than 2 weeks old and we both need a level playing field to work on. I took away his comfort zone, me, and I need to see what that will do to the dynamic of the situation. He is so far in denial, but that is just like him.
C9, Is there anyway that you can delegate some of your responsibilities to to others for a short time so that you are not working such insane hours? You seem to be burning the candles on both ends and I worry about when both ends meet in the middle, the flame will be too hot.
You deserve to have a home that is your haven, a place away from the insanity of your life. I lived in my car years ago and it was so hard. You deserve better for yourself. You have to take care of yourself first or you will not be in a good place to care for others. Let us know what is up with you. We want to help.
Re: Paxil Still taking this crap, but it does take the edge off of the black hole days. The pit is not quite so deep and dark so will continue to take for a bit until I know what is going on with my R. Still hate this, but one's gots to do what one's got to do to survive.
