I've been thinking about doing something different.

Typically I am gentle, kind, patient, giving - do I need to NOT be those things?

In the course of GAL I'm not around as much so I'm not giving/doing as much... I go swim every am so I'm not around to make his bagel or start the coffee in the morning, which is different.

I do not defend the kids, which is different.

I do not try to get a hug, kiss or initiate any touching whatsoever, which is different. I'm waiting for him to initiate contact, which is different. Hopefully one day he will.

I do not think anything I'm doing (or not doing) makes me any more mysterious or makes him more likely to draw closer.

Do I need to do - or not do - more?

H 51/W 43
Together 24yrs/Married 19yrs
2 kids- D18 & S16
"I want out" July 2008
"I want out" Dec 2008
"I want you out" Aug 2009
Still in house thru it all