Well, mish, I am not good. For more reasons than one. It's my new norm. But I have NO other choice than fake it till I make it... So much I have learnt...
Don't you know that as long as the magnetic strip on the card isn't completely worn out from use then you haven't 'overdone' it?
I had to laugh at this one...my H (always the spender out of the two of us, even before MLC/OW spending began) has literally worn the magnetic strips off of at least two credit cards in the last few years!
Maria, I am happy to hear you sounding better!
Peace, Dawn
P.S. Maria, I just saw your last post...I am sorry you aren't actually feeling better yet. I don't think you really need anyone to tell you that it will get better, you already know that, but maybe it will still help a little to be reminded of the fact? I am thinking of you often these days and wishing you the very best.
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
I have this printed up and on my wall in my classroom. Great lesson. Simple, yet beautifully summed up.
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What can I say, stbxH and his express diets do me good!!
I never looked or felt so slim than I did in the first few months of my divorce proceedings. Man, I was down close to 185 again and looking sharp! Unfortunately for me it didn't last and I'm up past 205 again and trying to find that "magic bullet" to kick start me over again.
I once joked that I'd be a millionaire if I just sold the "Divorce Diet Method" world-wide. Here's my catch line: "People can be slimmer almost instantly just by losing your family, security, confidence and stability! Try it out today w/our risk-free money back guarantee. If you don't significantly lose weight instantly over the sudden dropping of a bomb in your life that completely f$cks everything up, we'll refund your payments w/no questions asked."
Hey M, I love the wolves story, I heard it myself before in English, how true it is.. but so hard in reality to stop yourself feeding the negative/worry/anger etc.. I guess they are all normal stages and unless you are very Zen, hard to avoid totally! I do see it as grieving. You are grieving your M, your love for him and the love you thought he had for you.. currently lying in ashes after the way he has behaved. In your head at least, how you view it. You have to put yourself back together from that and the cycling over things, finding stuff out is all necessary, to put it to rest. I've been doing it too despite being advised not to !! I didnt listen, I think its healthy, within reason hey. I wonder how things are for him now...
Hey RTL...I am back to 205 or so as well. I was also down to my fighting weight of 185 ish. I guess that means we are back to "normal" in our heads or pretty close to it. I can always start excercising to get back down again. There is no way I want to go through your divorce diet again. I actually wonder sometimes how much damage the diet inflicted on our body (long term). Anyhow I got a kick out of your post.
I think Ali is spot on w/her comments about how easy it is to talk about "feeding the right wolf" but in reality, not only is it hard, but natural to have issues w/doing this.
Maybe you can try and tell yourself to "feed the good wolf" when you are feeling negative. Just a thought.
John, I'm glad you enjoyed my post. I would never want to go through that type of crash diet again. I was lighter and had less body fat, but I sure didn't "feel" really good inside. So, exercise and diet are the keys for me to get back under 205 and back to my fighting weight again.
Sounds like Kalni has fallen prey to the "diet" as well, but hopefully she can keep it off w/exercise and nutrition. If I had to do it all over again, I would have done a better job of trying to keep myself at that weight/size I was. Not sure if I could have done it, but I would have liked to have made a better effort at it.
Well, today I had a mini (really mini) sandwich with ham and cheece, a ball of mixed nuts-not very salty and 2 crackers with cheese. Drunk 2 coffees, 2 liters of ice tea and 2 liters of water (yes, going to the WC alot)...
If I keep this up, I will be down to 56kilos ( I am 1,71cm) in no time...
I did not mind the weight loss. It was the lack of sleep that got to me.
Here is a guy I took a picture of on my vacation that appears to be well over his divorce as he has a good layer of fat and sleeps a lot on the beach...
I posted on FB, I sent stbxH a 6 page letter describing of everything. My side of it with the new info I now have. Not a mean letter. On the contrary. Telling him how we will get thru this for our kids and how we have to make peace and learn to deal with each other.
It was killing him softly with elegance, grace and forgiveness (I said I cant forgive him now but since I need to do that to be happy I will do it for myself eventually) K
