Whoa!! not true I love going out..she just wants to go out w friends during the week not me.
That's an empirical question, as they say. She goes out w/ friends because you don't go out. Now it may be the case that she prefers to go out with others, or it may be the case that others are a substitute for going out with you.
This is an opportune moment for a 180. Get yourself a sitter, give her the time/date, and take it to the streets. Not a looking-at-each-other-over-the-candles event -- DB Telephone Coach Jody says that's a dicey proposition -- but something that gets the endorphins pumping: Go-cart track, horse racing, bungee-jumping, balloon ride -- anything that is totally out of character.
Scratch the record -- it won't play the same way again.
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dburt: Time to quit keeping score and let her do her thing.
what does that mean? can i do my thing? who watches the kids?
What it means is that it doesn't matter if she goes out 5 times a week. You can't control it. So don't count anymore. You go out. When she calls and says, "I may need to work late," you reply, "Oh, wow, you know I have plans, and I'm really not willing to cancel them at this late date. I'd appreciate it if you'd work through lunch and get home by..."
She goes out w/ friends because you don't go out. Now it may be the case that she prefers to go out with others, or it may be the case that others are a substitute for going out with you.
on giving this a second look, she has never complained that we dont go out during the week...but she did say "so and so makes me laugh...not like you."
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Let me switch for a second. My wife's bday is this saturday. I was planning on getting some perfume she wanted from the kids and a card from me. any advice on what i should and shouldnt do under these circumstances...dinner etc?
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on giving this a second look, she has never complained that we dont go out during the week...but she did say "so and so makes me laugh...not like you."
I got this too...and it just pissed me off and made me feel insecure...duh...I should've gotten the clue.
Take her out. Don't be overt. Be cool. Maybe go play pool or something fun...or whatever you kids do these days...
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I got this too...and it just pissed me off and made me feel insecure
doesnt bother me...so and so really isnt funny
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When it started to be about other women it made me feel insecure...and it doesn't matter if so and so is or isn't funny. It is a clue into what your wife wants and likes...someone who she has fun with and can laugh with.
Get this before it is too late.
Your W may up with someone you think is a moron (happens all the time) but he'll still have what you want, your wife.
