I don't know what to believe or think, either. Some days he sounds like he's coming back and then he says he's happy being alone. I do know he's busy, very busy...lots of travel with work and he likes that. Makes him feel important.
Would LOVE to cancel the divorce, and I don't want to react out of fear, but I have to protect myself. He even said that last night...
Love hearing from you Kimmie Lee....:)
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Okay, okay, BND....just hanging in there. I'm actually pretty calm today. I do best with limited contact because he's out of control and I can't do a thing about it...
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
You can't believe everything he tells you. However, you must learn to listen very, very closely and sift through the garbage that is coming out of his mouth. Some of what he says will be projection and then there will be some tiny tidbits that will help you to better understand how he feels, what he's experiencing.
Watch his body language....it will say it all.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Snodderly, please explain about the body language....he kept looking away from me last night and didn't want to touch me or anything...What should I be looking for? How do I know what is garbage?
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Still looking for help on what body language I should be watching? He's going to be gone for a long time now anyway on a motorcycle trip and then some business trips. Trying my best to GAL!!!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Watch him closely. He may say one thing, but his body language will say another. You have to know your h very well to do this. Can you tell when he's lying to you? They fidget, look everywhere but at you, there are certain little quirks that each individual has that if you are in tune w/your h, only you will notice and pick up on.
As for the garbage spewing, you know what is live and what is memorex. Listen closely, very closely, don't focus on the anger. Sometimes they will tell on themselves and actually trip up and you will pick up on it. Sometimes, you will not notice just how much you really did hear and now know until after the conversation is over and done with.
This is an area that you will need to do some homework on to better understand what to look for. You know your husband very well? Then you will know....watch and listen.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
He hardly looks at me at all. He says it's because he feels too quilty to look at me..could that be it?
My lawyer called and said they received a response from my husband's lawyer. What does that mean? I'm supposed to call her tomorrow and she's going to e-mail it to me. She said there's nothing 'shocking' whatever that means...
I'm just so sad....was having a good day and now this happened. I would still like to go to court and ask the judge for a time period to attempt to reconcile. I'm going to tell my lawyer that tomorrow as well.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
