AAK is right, stick to one thread so people can follow along. It's too confusing and time consuming trying to track down your info.

You may not be getting a lot of feedback because it sounds like you're handling things better than most newbies. Try posting to other people's threads with support/advice/encouragement and ask them to do the same for you.

Re: your other post, I don't have any experience with dealing with addicts/addiction but I don't think you can say it's typical of a WAS. I don't think you can truly know if she has a serious problem or not at this point. Regardless, she has issues that only she can deal with. Giving her space will help her see that she has to own them. Whether or not she chooses to deal with them remains to be seen. She could continue to try to fill that empty space inside with something/someone new and never face her demons. But the choice is hers to make, you cannot fix it for her.

If you love somebody, set them free.
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